Christy Chilimigras

3 Female Sexual Disorders You Need to Know About When it comes to female sexual dysfunction (FSD), there is a lot that women don’t know. While we should be able to speak to our doctors and partners about everything, sometimes sexual concerns can be very difficult to open up about. For this reason, we dove into the Safer Sex archives run by Sexologist Elna McIntosh of Disa Clinic in Johannesburg to find out what it is we should be aware of. ‘Female sexual dysfunction is considered the collectiv

How to Master the Sex Talk with Your Partner Communicating with your partner can be tricky at the best of times. Communicating that your clitoris is actually a half centimetre to the left of where he thinks it is can be daunting AF. So how exactly can a couple master conversations about sex? According to sex therapist Laurie J Watson in Psychology Today, there are four rules to keep in mind. Watson suggests choosing a neutral space (anywhere other than the bed) to initiate the conversation. Sh

5 Signs You Should Consider Relationship Counselling It’s not exactly news that relationships are tough work. While many of us go to therapy to address our own, individual issues, there is still a stigma around relationship counselling. Many people see it as a failure because it’s an admittance that things aren’t perfect in their relationship, when rather it should be looked at as a determination to fight for something worthwhile. According to an article in Psychology Today by clinical psychol

A few years ago, after having sex with the same guy for four years without any problems at all, my vagina kinda shut down. It didn’t matter how much foreplay was involved or how deeply we smooched. When it came time for insertion (lol sorry) no finger, let alone a penis could enter me. It was scary, painful and it felt like there was no way around it. Speaking with a sexologist helped me understand that I was suffering from Vaginismus. We got in touch with Disa Clinic, a sexual health clinic in

5 Seriously Simple Ways to Improve Your Sexual Health Sex is an incredibly important part of life. According to Disa Clinic’s website, Safer Sex, which covers all things sexual health, there are a few ridiculously simple things you can do to get healthier and happier. It’s not exactly news that there are some benefits to eating chocolate. Dark chocolate, in particular, can benefit your sexual and overall health because it lowers blood pressure and increases good cholesterol. If you’re planning

6 Things You Need to Know About the Morning-After Pill If the day comes where you need it, know what’s up Sometimes it doesn’t matter how responsible you are with your contraception, life happens. Sometimes we get caught up in the heat of the moment and use no contraception at all. Always keep in mind that in the case of unprotected sex, the emergency contraceptive pill doesn’t prevent sexually transmitted diseases. Here are some other things you absolutely need to know about the emergency con

This is Why We Kiss with Tongue While every couple develops their own gestures of affection (you know, kissing the nape of their neck or anal sex), pretty much all of us kiss on the lips. Okay, perhaps not all. According to Psychology Today, only roughly half of human society shows affection by locking lips. So why do those of us who do it, do it? Why do we not only press our lips against our boo’s, but throw our tongues in the mix, too? While scientists haven’t come up with a definitive answe

6 Questions We'd Love to Ask Men About Their Man Parts There are endless questions we’d love to ask men regarding their genitalia. Many of them, we wouldn’t dare ask our partners because we’re attempting to ~*keep the romance alive*~. Most we wouldn’t dare ask our male friends because the second you bring up their man bits, they assume you’re frothing for exposure to their own. So these questions sit in the back of our minds, on the tip of our tongue, every time our partner disappears to the ba

Having stumbled into the open arms of a sexologist a few years ago in a moment of panic, I can honestly say I don’t know what I would do without her. If you’ve ever wanted to visit a sexologist but felt like you didn’t even know where to begin, here is a beginner’s guide to some of the sexologists and sex therapists in Cape Town. Whether you’re dealing with low self-esteem, having trouble reaching orgasm or are dealing with trauma from a sexual assault, they’ve got you. What is sexology? Sexo

We Tried Some of the Crazy Sex Positions We've Recommended to You When it came time for the COSMO team to dive into the deep end of their own lives for #COSMOTries, I knew it was finally my time to shine. Guys, I may not be the fittest or the strongest, but when it comes to sliding between beds and headboards and queefing on the way down, I’m ya girl. Because it’s easy to fall into a sex routine and somehow always end up in your fave of all the positions (doggy, duh), I decided to try out some

Forever on the Edge of an Orgasm I feel it’s a safe assumption that most women have spent an age on the cliff of an orgasm during their lifetime. That moment where you’re full enough to topple over, but somehow deflate rather than bursting. These ‘blocked’ orgasms are frustrating to say the least, and helping to understand why they happen can help hugely in pushing you off that glorious edge. In a conversation with Bustle, Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin explained some of the reasons why these blo

Turns Out Men Also Have a Biological Clock The next time someone (read: a man) mentions your biological clock, tell him to back the F off. Apparently, it’s time men and their spermies hop off their high horse. Despite years of believing that the curse of the ‘biological clock’ rests solely with women, a new study conducted by Harvard’s Laura Dodge may prove otherwise. The study included 7 000 couples, who collectively went through nearly 18 000 attempts of in-vitro fertilisation. The findings

Recently, I read an article called Being on top is a fate worse than death, and it’s time we all just admit it. Immediate relief. Someone had said it. Being on top is indeed one of the shittiest of all the sexual positions! And so I sent it to a WhatsApp group with my two best friends so we could all rejoice in our hatred of certain physical exertion. But I quickly realised that, in fact, some women do enjoy being on top. I am just super lazy. Here’s how the convo went down: So you see. Not on

Is Your New Bae Going Soft on You? You’re a month in (or a week, or a day… you do you, girl) and you and your new bae decide to take it to the next level and have some good ol’ fashion ~*sex*~. You’ve seen his penis, you’ve felt it rubbing up on your thigh during a dry-humping sesh (which is making a comeback btw), yet.. when it comes to doing the deed, it suddenly seems a little sad. Let’s be frank: we’ve all had a penis go flaccid on us before. While for many of us our immediate response may

The Truth About Dating with an STD Dating is hard, fam. Considering people’s dating deal-breakers can be as petty as someone enjoying Nickelback, it’s understandable that many people who suffer from an STD – more specifically, herpes – often find the stigma of the disease more daunting and unpleasant than the disease itself. Herpes is categorised into two types: HSV-1, which is primarily transmitted by oral-oral contact and causes cold sores around the mouth (however, it can also cause genital

This is How Many of Your Co-Workers are Having Sex at Work 82% of you have had sex at the office?! In a recent survey conducted by Yellow Octopus, a naughty truth came to light. Apparently, despite all the meetings that need to be attended, grown-up things that need to be done, and daily gossips with work wife that need to be had… people are still finding the time to have sex at work. (True story! What are the chances someone’s doing it in your office toilets RN?) The survey included 1,000 pe

3 Easy Steps to an Orgasm with Your Partner According to Michael Castleman, sex expert and author, there are three quite simple steps all men should be following when it comes to sex. Perhaps leave this article open on your desktop in your home. ‘Accidentally’ send this link to your bae followed by, ‘Lol! Sorry, meant to send that to my girls. But you might as well have a look.’ However you do it, it’s a good idea to impart some of Castleman’s wisdom onto your sex life. 1 ‘Enjoy at least 30 mi

What 'Sex Outside of the Bedroom' Actually Means We’ve all heard countless times that good sex starts ‘outside of the bedroom’. But WTF does that mean anyway – dry-humping bae when you’re out grocery shopping (fun but inappropriate)? Well, according to a piece published in Psychology Today by former psychotherapist Atlanta Beaumont, there are five things in a relationship that occur outside of the bedroom, but that all affect what happens in the bedroom. And some are more obvious than others…

Shy? These Sex Tips are for You! For the Charlotte York in a group of Samantha Joneses, sex can be tough. Whether you’re talking about it or having it, sex for the shy girl is a different thing altogether. We spoke to two shy girls to find out what works for them when it comes to having fulfilling and amazing sex. Get yourself in the mood If that means listening to sexy music (whatever that means to you, personally) while having a long bubble bath, or enjoying some solo action before your pa

10 Things That Matter More than a Big Penis Because you cannot live on penis alone Sure, a big penis can be great. But make an amazing relationship, it does not. These things, on the other hand, can. 1 A sense of humour So you’ve slipped between the bed and the headboard and had a queef accompany you on the way down. A big penis isn’t going to giggle with you at the ridiculousness of the situation. A man with a sense of humour will. 2 Generosity Sadly but very truly, a big penis is not a